If we keep on comparing ourselves with others that will take away our peace of mind and happiness. Comparing ourselves with others seems like a disease that spread over our soul. People who keep on measuring their cars, houses, bank balance, holidays, jewelery, shoes and dresses with others actually suffer from inferiority complex. If you want to remain happy don’t torture yourself with comparison.
Comparing oneself to others is more prevalent in female species. You have dressed fine to go out and enjoy with friends but someone has dressed up cooler than you is enough to destroy mood. You keep on eying your friend’s dress and accessories on and often. Was it a dress out to kill outing or were you out to enjoy? I often see many females to compare so much that it becomes annoying after a while. They don’t even realize how unhappy they feel if they keep on comparing themselves with others.
There is something about myself that keeps me happy. I don’t know why and how but I have never lost peace of mind over some dress, make-up, shoes, accessories or jewelery that someone else is having. Concentrating or focusing on yourself is the key to happiness.
I am blessed with the presence of some persons in my life whose self worth or self confidence is not proportional to the dress or hairstyle they wear. They never bothered about what is in trend, what is in and what is out. They wear whatever catch their fancy but they never forget to wear their self-confidence. They seem content and happy in whatever they have. And that doesn’t mean they are unambitious. But they chose to excel in their respective fields instead of your dress vs mine. They tend to acquire what they want, not what is trending recently.
I just want to transfer this quality in my kid too. To an extent she is like me. I have never heard her saying, I want that toy or I want that dress which XYZ is wearing. I will try to make sure that my young one remains so in near future too and doesn’t get involved in this fruitless comparing exercise.
If you sit down and see the results of comparing yourself with others, you will be disinclined to indulge in this game. We lose peace of mind, we lose friends and their trust, we get distracted from our goals, we set out to do something for which we are not cut out, we waste our energy in chasing something that keep on setting new standards, we lose self worth and self respect. Why not get rid of all the negative energy and be happy instead? Its so easy to say to your friend if her dress is cooler than you, ‘wow! what a nice dress!’ It will make her day as well as yours when you get a genuine smile that reaches to her eyes, in return.
good one. i never compare these silly things with others. reason is i can get them whenever i want. but what i compare is career of mine vs others. this happens rarely, but whenever it happens, it is enough to loose sleep of mine for many days. do not know how to avoid this.
When I get three pencils to all 3 cousins, the first thing my nephew is interested will be – which color is my boy holding?…
Probably when the kids grow up in company, they tend to compare. I always wanted to keep my notebook better than my brother, probably this is something to motivate as well.. If we don’t have anybody or anything to compare, whom do we bench mark against? with oneself? just questioning myself..
Probably we lead by example and may be this will impart the kids atleast 60% of their habits. When ever I see a well groomed individual, I congratulate the parents. Good to see your little one shaping up.
very true……when we start comparing it takes happiness from our life. Generally i don’t care about clothes or other small things, but when it comes to job its all different story. If some friend gets a job i am happy for him but at the same time i feel why not me? when will be my turn? Am i that bad? next few days would be horrible. Need to find some solution