Is it really true that love is blind? Whatever articles or fiction I read on love paint a rosier than rosy picture of love. But what I have seen in real life is more of a bizarre kind of emotions than actual love. Love makes you think and do many awkward things that you won’t do when you are thinking normally. I have seen sane headed persons behaving in most illogical manner. But a recent online study tell the same thing.
In an experiment with college students in long-term relationships, researchers at UCLA and the online dating service eHarmony found that asking coeds to reflect on the love they felt for their boyfriends or girlfriends blunted the appeal of especially attractive members of the opposite sex.
When people are in love they don’t remember the USP of the hot alternatives presented to them such as curvaceous body or toned muscles. Then what do they remember of the “other” hot prospects?
“These people could remember the color of a shirt or whether the photo was taken in New York, but they didn’t remember anything tempting about the person,” Gonzaga said. “It’s not like their overall memory was impaired; it’s as if they had selectively screened out things that would make them think about the how attractive the alternative was.”
“One of the biggest threats to a relationship is an attractive alternative to your loved one — or that attractive woman at work or the hot guy you meet in the bar,” Gonzaga said. “In subtle ways that you might not even notice, the gushy feelings you get when you think of your partner help you fend off these threats.”
So it really seems true that love triumphs all or most of the obstacles. 🙂
Does one get funds for this kind of research? There seemed to be so many flaws. e.g. Downloading pics from Hot or Not. The same pic may be hot for some not for some.
Also if instructed not to think about another person while writing their essays, how did these guys manage ‘not to think’?- Its very difficult to imagine. Even if somebody tells me not to think of the ‘Great Khali’ while writing about someone I love, I will still think about him and remember quite a few of his features.
Moreover, I think being in love does not make a person any less aware of another person’s beauty.
You seem to reading lot of weird reports. :).
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Hi,Alka-now,this is surely a ‘different’ kind of research…amusing though it is, it must be true- how else can one explain the phenomenon described in the article? Come to think of it, people in love do turn a blind eye towards their partner’s idiosyncracies, preferring to dwell on what makes them tick as a couple..:) In fact, I’m sure the survey would have still different results if they interviewed some ‘arranged marriage’ couples in India.:)
Hi,Alka-thanks for quite a tempting insight!!:)
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