Few days ago, I was talking to my mother over phone. It was our usual conversation of a mother and daughter. And suddenly my tongue slipped off about a minor unfortunate incident. That’s it. She was really upset. I cursed my tongue.
But of late I am trying to have a heart to heart talk with her. Trying to explain things. I respect my parents for bringing me up the way they did. Like other parents they want my well being and want to see me happy. Always.
Why I do that? Why I keep them away from my dilemmas, my troubles? Have I become too self assured? Don’t I love them? Don’t I care for them? When I was growing up, they never troubled me with their problems. They just allowed me to grow and evolve and were there when I needed answers to endless questions. I have never heard from my father, “Kya bakvaas saval poochti ho?� They provided emotional support and taught me how to tackle problems. They have spent a greater part of their lives educating us, caring for us, bringing us up, and nurturing us. That’s enough. It’s time for them to sit back and enjoy. It’s their life too, what if they don’t sing defiantly,� It’s my life.� They have to chill out now and have lots of fun without bothering for me. They have earned it. NOW they need peace and quiet. It’s payback time. I think it’s just time for the role reversal. Now it’s my turn to be strong, to provide emotional and moral support when they are low. It’s time for me to take the bull by horn. I have the ability to sort out the mess of my own creation. I won’t run to parents if in a soup. Not always. I have got a mind of my own, which I can put to use if I want to. Now I take my mother’s arm while crossing the road. They have completed their responsibilities. Their little daughter has grown up and she has definitely not grown into a sucker and a parasite.
wow. i feel d same abt my parents 2. “wot if they scream defiantly ‘its my life’…” nice 1..
i dunno y u said “mess of my own creation” and titled d post “sucker”. maybe sthing big is behind this post…. im goin thru sthing like this..
they DONT* typo in 1st comment
It is not about being a sucker, Alka. It is more about the fact that they cannot help you anymore as they could when you were younger. The whole point about not letting people at home know about our worries is that they’ll just get agitated over the issue and worry themselves but all this while they will not be able to do anything to help.
Yes, we all grow up with time and need to shoulder our own responsibilites.
LOL @ the “Itz my life” part 😀
Very well said. Yes, we should not burden our parents in this age though they will always be ready to do their best.
And for coming up generation? Well, we should not even expect any.
I read your blog quite often but don’t comment. 🙂 Thought of commenting this time. I am moved by that rani post also.
Parents are always like this no matter how old we become.yes true, its time for role reversal. however i got some more time i guess 🙂
My eyes welled with tears. Anything we can do for them is less, and they will always keep doing everything for us. great post.
I would say that’s the life, It’s kind a relay race :).
BTW Alka, check my homepage instead of zero hours. There you will see all posts from my all blogs.
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Hi Alka, I am back here after a really long time. Love the new look of your blog. As regards your post, I completely endorse your view. And guess what, I also think that its the girls who tend to think this way. The boys always use their parents for as long as they can…. But girls are a lot more sensitive… And your post is clearly indicative of my beliefs….
If only everybody could think like this.
right said…alka ji 🙂
hmmm hmmm Ritu ji…..boys insensitive eh?
Very thoughful post. I really liked it.
I think, most of our parents did the same, and we have a duty to make sure that we make it worthwhile for them in these days, atleast not to creat a mess for them to clean up, emotional, or other manifestations.
…Now I take my mother’s arm while crossing the road. They have completed their responsibilities…