I was reading Steve Pavlina’s post “Soulful relationships.� It’s a wonderful write up. And it also conveys to us how to explore meaningful relationships even with a total stranger. In today’s commercial world this article is like fresh, unadulterated and crisp winds from Himalayas. What I get to read what people want in a partner or in a friend is
1) How he/she dresses.
2) What footwear he/she is wearing.
3) How he/she looks.
4) He/she should be cool.
5) His not hers’ financial status.
6) His/Her hanging out place.
7) Where he takes you out for dinner/lunch.
8) How he/she speaks
9) Whether he/she is the part of hip hop crowd?
10) Can you show him/her around as a trophy?
As a cliché these points are also thrown around:
How he/she carries himself/herself.
He/She has a sense of humor.
He/She should respect me.
He/She should have a personality.
When such rubbish is thrown around us with regularity, reading “Soulful Relationships� is a wonderful experience. It seems there are still people who can rise above trivialities and take the trouble to look into a person’s inner beauty. Otherwise what is fed to us is that only people like Bekhams and Clintons grace this universe with their presence.
Ahh yes… we do need sensible people around us who will look into the inner self and become friends based on that rather than who we go out with or where we dine. Such friends are really great to have and it is only with such people that you want to open up or share any secrets.
Thanks for the link.
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That link is pretty good. And as for Beckams and Clintons…well, I guess they are deep people in their own way, na…maybe nobody cares to look beyond the glitz with them either. 🙂
hello dear,
there are still people who give more importance to inner beauty raather than going for only outer beauty as it will vanish one day but its inner beauty that make you beautiful and always stay….
Nice Link. I see your point. Luckily, I have never lived in a circle where such thought process goes about while making firends. My friends are blunt and frank. I love them.
all thse things i feel r just for the first impressions and the following few days.if u start liking a person, u’ll start liking evrything thing of his, even if u thot tht was wierd before 🙂
Well, what you have said in the second part of the post if probably the reason why beauty queens are asked certain questions- to see how they are internally but some of their anwers about the causes that they claim to suport sound artificial which is hardly soulful.
One should not make a virtue out of it also- one can be goog externally and interally- You have mentioned Beckham and Clinton- Imran Khan and Brett lee are two people who genuinely seem good both ways.
First priority is being in a soulful relationship with yourself first- if interested, check out the site of Lance Secretan on the link given in my latest post on my other blog- Make your passion your profession
Hi,Alka…thanks for the link…and,you used quite a nice phrase’like fresh, unadulterated and crisp winds from Himalayas.’